In this day and age we have so much to choose from. Many of our needs can be accommodated even at the late hours of the night. The need to satisfy our wants is not as unattainable as before. If you want a burger at 1 in the morning, you could have one delivered to you. If you want to get snacks, there are convenience stores available 24-hours a day. But despite all the change and all the convenience we still yearn for more.
We yearn for more time, we yearn for more approval, and we yearn for more wants that never seem to end. Whatever happened to having a simple dinner with the family? The biggest struggle these days in the household is “who has time to cook?”, or “where are we eating?” Back then it didn’t matter if we hung out in one restaurant or a cafe almost every day – what mattered most was that we enjoyed each other’s company. Most people can’t even eat in the same restaurant twice in a week now! When I was in college my friends and I had one dilemma every day: it was “where do we eat lunch?” There were about 20-50 food joints and yet we spent more time deciding where to eat than talking during lunch. Every day was the same, we dined together but we didn’t really talk, we were all busy with our phones or tablets. Till one day my friend said, “Guys, can we talk?” That was when I realized how much we are all in our own worlds, that we don’t even need each other’s company.
If you look at it, we spend more time chatting, texting, and watching a series than talking to the people in front of us. Sometimes we don’t even chat or text – what matters the most is the likes and the followers we get. We have become obsessed with the need for attention. When there are probably more people who don’t care and just like your photo or your status just so you would do the same. I believe the term is “like for like” or “l4l” in short form. We seem to have that need to achieve “1k followers” – and then when you see someone else with more, all we think about is topping that. Our need for more time is actually the need to gain more followers or likes. We would like more time in a day because to us there is not enough time in a day – when actually there is. If we take the time to stop for an hour or two away from our phones and other gadgets you would be surprised on the amount of work you can finish.
Experts suggest that you should post regularly to gain more followers. I think most people misunderstand this statement. They said post regularly – not every waking minute of the day. You may post a different photo of yourself or of anything every 1-5minutes but that doesn’t guarantee you an express ticket to 1k followers. People might actually just un-follow you if you do so. Photos were used to preserve a momentum now it is a means to show our new toys, accessories, bags, clothes and to showcase our “beautiful” life to everyone. I used to hang out with someone who bases the places we would go to on how nice the presentation of the food was. I remember spending $50 for brunch and I wasn’t even full. But my friend enjoyed taking photos of the food that it didn’t really matter that the food was terrible. He complained about the food but told me, “hey, at least they look nice!” The rest of us didn’t say anything because the rest of us preferred to eat at a less “hipster joint” and enjoy good food. Yes, the presentation of the food will not be perfect, but who cares if it tastes awesome! Somehow our appreciation for simple things diminishes as we fall too much into our social media accounts.
I’m not saying we should hate social media. I’m saying we should remember the small little things and appreciate now. There are actual people who appreciate the real you. You and I don’t have to gloat to the world how much we have to gain satisfaction. We don’t need to let people know how lucky we are or how luxurious we are. We should always take note that what matters the most are the people around us because, most likely, the people around us are the people who knows us and loves us for we really are – not because we are popular on the internet.